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 All of a Relationship's Natural Stages

It's only normal to want to know how romantic relationships function, whether you're trying to figure out why someone ghosted you, how to deal with emotional betrayal, or how to get over a broken heart.

Of course, because no two relationships are alike, this is easier said than done. However, as their time together passes, most couples (even triads!) will go through similar stages of their relationship. For ethically non-monogamous people or those who build their own relationship arrangements, these stages may seem slightly different. However, as a bond grows and strengthens, most people will have to negotiate the same stages of a relationship.

Certain life situations do, however, influence how these stages progress. For example, if you started dating someone during COVID lockdown and spent an unusual amount of time together as a result, the honeymoon phase may pass you by faster than usual. On the other hand, because they don't have to cope with the challenges of adulthood on a daily basis, a 16-year-old may be able to stay in that blissful condition for longer than others.

Understanding the stages of a relationship and how to traverse them can help you better understand what's going on in your own life, learn how to communicate about it, and realize that you're not alone. Are you ready to jump right in?

A Relationship's Typical Stages Begin the honeymoon phase with a one-year commitment.

You undoubtedly saw this coming, and you've probably heard of this term before — and it's a genuine thing. The start of a new relationship is thrilling. You've made a connection with someone you like and who likes you. You're curious about them, can't get enough of them, and are experiencing all of the passionate feelings that make dating so exciting. There's a lot of hype, joy, excitement, anticipation, optimism, enjoyment, enthusiasm, exuberance, thrills, optimism, energy and excitement, excitement, excitement, excitement, (See also: What Does It Mean to Have Sexual Chemistry with Someone?)

This is the stage when people are typically overcome by romantic impulses, believing they have discovered "the one" (or "the ones"), and having mind-blowing, passionate sex.It's critical not to make any major decisions during this period of the relationship (e.g. moving in together, getting engaged, etc.). Don't get me wrong: the honeymoon period should be enjoyable! Take in all the delight this phase has to offer, and then wait until the relationship's next phase to take things to the next level. This stage can continue anywhere from six months to two years, but for most partnerships, it ends around the first year.

The best part of the honeymoon period is this: It's genuinely based on science. Dopamine, serotonin, and adrenaline levels rise throughout this period of the relationship, resulting in that all-too-familiar feeling of attraction. Dopamine is the "feel good" neurotransmitter, serotonin makes you happy and joyful (among other things), and norepinephrine (often known as adrenaline) makes you feel invigorated and euphoric. The combination of these three neurotransmitters can make you blind to certain things, such as the person's flaws, which is fine as long as you're aware and safe. These hormones/neurotransmitters fade after a period of time (again, this varies depending on a variety of factors), allowing the intense "high" to wear off and the relationship to return to high.

Phase of Returning to Reality: 1-2 Years

This is my favorite stage. It's full of possibilities, and for many people, it's a make-or-break time in their relationship. Your partner(s) can't do anything wrong during the honeymoon phase; you're swept away with one other and haven't dug deep enough to see if there are any genuine difficulties yet — and that's fine. You might be seeking a one-night stand rather than a long-term partnership.

If you're seeking for something more long-term, though, this period of a relationship is critical to its development. This portion is both tough and dreamy for me as someone who has a lot of sentiments and appreciates lengthy, private conversations. This is where things start to get real in a new sense; you'll probably talk about uncomfortable topics, meet each other's friends and/or family, and you'll probably notice certain aspects about each other that upset you or warrant a chat.

What is my recommendation? Don't run away from these issues; they will eventually catch up with you; true intimacy and connection come from confronting them together. So, let's chat. Be open and honest with your spouse, and ask them questions. Listen with intention and share completely openly. In many respects, this period lays the groundwork for the rest of your partnership. This could be a breaking point if your partner is unwilling to conduct the dialogues in a vulnerable manner. Believe people when they show you who they are throughout this stage — and remember, you didn't fail at this relationship if you broke up. Leaving a relationship that isn't right for you is just as successful as staying in one that is. (Related: A Therapist Explains How to Know When a Relationship Is Over)

Phase of Decision-Making: 2-3 years

In this stage of a relationship, everything is out, exposed, and on the table. You're undoubtedly familiar with each other's traumas, hang-ups, flaws, communication issues, and deepest needs and concerns. It's all out there: you're completely naked emotionally. If the relationship isn't working out, this may be a difficult stage to go through; it's even more terrible to lose someone after they've seen you in all of your forms and you've seen them in all of theirs.

However, this stage of the relationship is critical for progress — and for many people, it boils down to determining whether your lives are complementary. You've learned everything there is to know about each other at this point. It's definitely best to split ways if your lifestyle doesn't fit how you regard going to therapy, communication, progress, after-care, and whatever else is most essential to you and your basic beliefs. It's almost as if the partners are on stage, surrounded by all of their toughest barriers, all of which have spotlights beaming down on them — it's either time to decide to work as a team and handle those gnarly things together, or it's time to split up.